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Sweetpea is Six!

2011-12-23T09:57:00.004-05:00

"I like being six because I get to learn new things and do new crafts." - Sweetpea, 6

Dear Sweetpea,

You are 6 and so smart and sweet. You are overjoyed to have a new baby sister and if left to your own devices you pick her up and twirl her around, kiss her face off, and play pony-girl. When given a choice you'd much rather care-take and play with the baby rather than oblige Punky by playing with her. We see that you like wielding this power over her - the fighting can be constant!

Above all, you choose to play, read, or draw alone. You can sit for hours with your own imagination, markers and a notebook. For Christmas this year you've wrapped us homemade presents that have various drawings, sculptures of tape and paper, and shredded confetti. You are a real artist and your skills keep getting better and better. You have asked for a 'Singamajig' (a doll that sings) because you think it sounds like it's burping. In fact, you call it a 'Squeeze-a-burp.'

You've started Kindergarten this year in your very own class and you love to ride the bus! Your teachers are always stopping me to tell me what a sweet girl you are. You've lost 2 teeth, have 2 wigglers on top, can read, hula hoop, do science experiments, and zip your coat.

You've retained your finicky disposition toward eating and would still enjoy the all-white diet (apples, pears, cheese, bread, butter...) if we let you. You are intensely cerebral and ask questions that really make us wonder what's going on in your head, e.g.: What do people sleep on in jail? How much kinetic energy do you need to pole vault? Do you think baby powder is hydrophilic or hydrophobic?

Your Dad and I love you so much and enjoy seeing your generous spirit toward others (except Punky). You are truly a terrific six-year-old and I'm so glad to share this year with you!

Love,
Mommy

Punky is Six!

2011-12-23T09:46:00.007-05:00

"Now that I'm older, I get to do older things like pour my own orange juice from the fridge, or get things up high by myself with a ladder." - Punky, 6

Dear Punky,

You are 6 and so smart and sassy. You like the finer things of life and this year for Christmas you've asked for: a ballgown, REAL high heels, and a crown. You also ask just about every other day to get your ears pierced. You just want to be so fancy!

You started Kindergarten this year in your very own class and you've enjoyed making your own friends and riding the bus. You continue to have a flair for the dramatic and seem to experience the entire spectrum of emotions on a daily basis. You've also entered a goofy, clumsy stage. It's quite the combination!

You've lost 2 teeth on bottom, have 2 wigglers on top, can read, ride a bike without training wheels, roller blade, hula hoop and zip your coat, among many other things! You have a knack for pushing Sweetpea's buttons, particularly when you follow her around at a 2-inch distance or meow after her like a cat. You'd prefer to play with others over doing things alone and when others aren't interested your feelings get hurt.

You are kind and goofy with Peanut, but enjoy playing older games much more. You are a terrific singer and dancer, and you tend to get a bit shy about performing in front of others. You reluctantly oblige us at times. You relish praise and are hyper-aware of others' opinions.

Your Dad and I love you so much and like to see how willing you always are to try new things. You are a truly a terrific six-year-old and I'm so glad to share this year with you!

Love,
Mommy

The "Vegetable" of Lights

2011-12-20T09:32:00.003-05:00

"Do you wanna know the miracle of Hanukkah?

Once upon a time people 'lighted' the Menorah, but a mean King came and he wanted them to pray to him and they tried to do their dreidel backwards, without looking. When the mean king wasn't there they could pray however they wanted to. But, then there was a nice knight and even though the King's army was bigger and the knight's army was smaller, in 3 years the knight's army beat the King's! And, then they were going to light the Menorah, but there was a problem. The Menorah only had a little bit of oil left. And, so they had to go and search for more, but it took a long time to get there. They thought it was going to last for one night, but IT WAS A MIRACLE! The oil lasted for 8 nights! And that's the miracle of Kwanzaa."

- Punky, Age 6.

Piles

2011-12-15T19:48:00.014-05:00

Having things in their place, all tidy-like gives me an inner calm. I know it's an element of control and I'm fine with that. Since Peanut came along, however, an organized house has gone on the 'things I just don't have time for list.' Things people will think as they read this:

You have three kids, of course your house is a disaster
What's most important is the time spent with your family, not how your house looks
You should be napping while she's napping

While (sort of) appreciated, I have to say that it really takes a little something out of me as I walk by the piles of [insert any household object here] that are EVERYWHERE. I kid you not about this. Everywhere.

I was the kid who spent time cleaning and reorganizing her room on the weekends. It brought me great satisfaction. Sweetpea and Punky seem disinterested in how refreshing it feels to walk into a clean room. Peanut can't be counted on in this imbalance as she is generating dirty diapers and laundry like a champion.

So, here I am among the chaos wondering if the tides have turned. Wondering whether this chaos that prevents me from inviting people over to bake cookies, for example, will ever simmer down.

How to Cook a Turkey...Kindergarten Style

2011-11-25T11:01:00.003-05:00

Sweetpea:

"I would go to the Farmer's Market and get a dead turkey that had no chicks, no bones, but all the yummy parts! I would put it in the oven with a thermometer so it is not too hot or too cold. Cook it a couple hours. My dad will take the blood out and chop it."

Punky:

"Go to the grocery store and buy a turkey. Then we are going to cook our turkey on the stove for 11 minutes. Add some Ranch Dressing. It goes really well with chicken. Decorate the turkey with spinach and flowers. Then we will eat it."

Don't you want to join us for our delicious feast of Ranch Dressing and blood-less Turkey?

On Being 5 Months

2011-10-17T22:39:00.002-04:00

In addition to my front-to-back rolling, I sit up now
I eat bananas and cereal
I love my hands and feet and grab toys, clothes, food, paper...really any shiny, crinkly thing, like a monkey
I smile and crack up when I see my sisters
I continue to have an all-you-can-drink buffet at night (Mama is threatening to reign this in immediately)
I squeal with delight
I take communion like an expert (though I have been since I was baptized)
I'm starting to get shy around people
I started saying 'Da-da-da-da' today. I still move my mouth in this form even when the words aren't coming out.
I rock a cool hoodie

Julie and 'Julie and Julia'

2011-09-16T11:06:00.006-04:00

I got an unexpected, lovely birthday gift in the mail yesterday:

I am a frequent shopper at Trader Joe's as I've chattered about several times. I was so excited about this gem that I immediately sat down and read the the introduction and author's notes. I never do this. Then I got a giddy and thought - I can do this! I can be like Julie Powell who blogged about her journey with Julia Child's Mastering the Art of French Cooking. Let's face it, I'll be tackling Linguine with Leeks, Shrimp and Arugula and not Boeuf Bourguignon, but regardless it should be a cooking adventure for me! Thank you, Jill!

A Prized Present

2011-09-02T20:27:00.006-04:00

My b-day is coming up and my sweet honey got me one of the most creative gifts ever: my own handwriting as a font! Behold, a screen shot of the goodness:

A New Adventure!

2011-08-25T14:46:00.006-04:00

Subtitled: An End of an Era or Kindergarten!

I can ride my bike,

And read a book,

And spell cat and dog and pig.

I have finished being small and started being big.

-D. Aldis

I love you, girls! Go have a great adventure.

Look, Stampede

2011-08-19T16:50:00.004-04:00

Kindergarten is right around the corner and has many emotions associated with it (on my part), but the overriding emotion today is joyful anticipation. This summer has been a goodie overall and I'm pleased to say that the girls have generally come up with ~~only mildly-annoying~~ pretty cute games. This morning's offering was: Look, Stampede.

Follow these simple steps for hours (or approximately 20 minutes) of fun:

Player 1 holds binoculars up to her face while Player 2 runs toward Player 1 from a 20 foot distance at full speed. Crack up, switch roles, repeat.

You girls have come a long way since Wucky Woh Woh!

Supply High

2011-08-15T21:05:00.004-04:00

I love office supplies. There, I've said it. I have had a steady supply of staples for the past 14 years. Why staples, you and I both ask myself? Who knows. But I hoard the supplies and then pop into the closet to see the rows of neatly stacked sheet protectors, endless fine-tipped pens and not one, but two label makers. It might be a sickness - the verdict is still out.

Anyhow, the point of the office supply gushing follows my many weeks of back-to-school shopping for my big girls. I had the list in my diaper bag for awhile and would pull it out to examine and strategize. There were some exciting items too, like twistable colored pencils and 9 large glue sticks...per girl! It was fun times over here. I even ordered them personalized labels here. Swoon.

It also got me motivated to clean out and reorganize my entire office and office supply cabinet. Behold the stash of staples, pens, batteries, et cetera, ad nauseam:

Oh Happy Babe

2011-08-10T11:19:00.003-04:00

I haven't said nearly enough about this wonderful girl who came into our lives. It is with complete gratitude to say what a delight she is. She is the kind of baby who doesn't lose her shit. She complains, cries a bit, but is able to rein it in and even give us a smile. In fact she's generous with her smiles and seems to love people. Every chance I get I kiss her face off her face.

But, here's the truth - So far, I stink at being a mom of three. I'm trying to navigate not only all three people having their basic needs met, but adding in some snuggling, reading time, and general conversation. I am still in a sleep deprived fugue, but that really isn't helpful to anyone around here. They still have questions to be answered and stories to be shared. This isn't a feel sorry for me post, it's a reality of the situation post. It's the I-can-barely-shower-and-I-think-I-have-tennis-elbow-from-holding-the-baby-so-much post.

As Many As Have Been Baptized into Christ...

2011-06-26T21:54:00.006-04:00

Our precious peanut was baptized this past weekend at our mission church.

We were so thankful to have friends and family join us for this sweet celebration!

Peas Porridge Hot

2011-05-13T16:35:00.006-04:00

9 Days Old

Welcome to our sweet addition and newest little Peanut! She is truly a love-filled, laundry-generating eating and pooping machine and we just love her.

A Smiling (Gassy?) Peanut

The A-Team is complete!

Palm Sunday

2011-04-17T13:07:00.004-04:00

Today is Palm Sunday and at our church we receive both palm branches as well as pussy willows (Russian tradition), which the girls were delighted to help hand out to everyone. However, before her big helping task Sweetpea leaned over to me and frantically whispered, "Am I supposed to be handing out the pussies or the willies?"

Lenten Songs

2011-04-14T10:27:00.010-04:00

The end of Lent is here, which makes me both happy (looking forward to Pascha) and sad (missing the beautiful pre-sanctified Liturgies that we've been going to). My heart has been warmed so many times throughout these past weeks as I hear the girls singing 'Before Thy Cross' or 'Let My Prayers Arise' around the house, unprompted. I love seeing the scenarios that they insert these songs into. Here are some examples:

As the girls hide in their makeshift tent Punky says: "Let's make this our clubhouse song" and proceeds to sing.
Sweetpea's sweet singing voice eeking through the bathroom door as she's on the pot.
Barbie fashion show equipped with church songs.
Requests for hearing St. Vladamir's Men's Choir in the car
Teaching their dollies and ponies to prostrate

I've been trying to capture these hidden moments, but it never works out - I just seem to disrupt the chi. I did ask Sweetpea for an encore the other day and she obliged.

Can you tell she'd been to the dentist earlier?

Final Countdown

2011-04-06T04:01:00.005-04:00

Insomnia has made itself a cruel guest in our household, particularly over the course of this past month. I realize that this is nature's way of prepping for the potentially sleepless nights with the baby, but could nature just give me a break at this point and let me have a full, restful night of sleep? Or would that be too much of a shock to the system when it's time for night feedings? Who knows.

What I do know is that the final countdown is on with less than 1 month to go before meeting this new little person. I'm filled with all sorts of wonder about what she'll be like and how our family of 4 will transform into a family of 5.

I called the doctor last night since I've been having nausea again (wasn't the first 4 months enough already?) and her nurse assured me that this was normal - something about bowels stretching, stomach smashing and a giant human living in your body. Yuck. Gregor has become an doting Italian mother, encouraging me to eat a little bit all of the time so I don't feel as badly. Last night I finally said to him - "Look, I'm already 3 tons of fun over here. I can't eat constantly." Without a moment's notice he said right back - "So, be 4 tons of fun."

Best response ever.

Imagination

2011-04-04T13:37:00.002-04:00

I love the possibilities here...

Baby Bag

2011-03-31T19:17:00.010-04:00

Oh, Nordstrom Rack how I heart thee. Your grand opening in Charlotte was perfectly timed with baby bag hunting. You are always so plentiful with your delightful promises of materialistic goodies and today you really delivered.

As with all of the loot for Baby #3, I've been thoughtfully searching for deals, but the diaper bag situation has been a little elusive. I hunted down some cute, but incredibly expensive finds which were as equally disappointing as the inexpensive, boring rubber-ducky laden messenger sacks that I've found. I have always had a fondness for cute bags and when I heard about the opening of my favorite discount store I thought - perfect, I'll hunt down a purse to be used as a bag!

Well...here's my find. Hobo International - originally priced at $288! Bargain-priced at much, much, much less. It was a steal, particularly when compared to the outrageous diaper bags I have looked at priced at $395 - no, thank you! Not only that, but it came with the cutest little coin/ID purse. Sweet. Plus, I've been sitting here smelling the yummy leather for about 30 minutes now. It's delicious and cute as pie.

Baby Bag

Pretty Innards

I've filled it up with all of the baby booty that I can remember needing.

Baby Loot

Here's the inventory:

Diapers, Wipes, Changing Pad (all packed in a snug wrap)
Dirty Diaper Bags
Burts Bees Baby Butt Ointment
Bath & Body Vanilla Anti-Stink Hand Sanitizer
Change of Outfits: 2 onesies, 2 pairs of mary-jane socks, 1 pair pants
2 Receiving Blankets
2 Burp Cloths
1 Nursing Cover
Small zipped pouch with breast pads
2 Stroller Clips for attaching bags to the stroller
2 Plugs (Pacifiers) in a small case
2 extra zipped pouches in case more organization is needed

Strategically Packed

Here's the Final Product:

Locked and Loaded

What was in your diaper bag and what am I missing?

Sweet Surprises!

2011-03-16T15:36:00.002-04:00

What I missed most about not living in Charlotte (during our 7 month Midwestern vacation) was my girlfriends. This was funny to me because having moved to Charlotte from San Diego there was about a year's period of time when I felt lonely and isolated. Then, these bright specks started to shine through and before I knew it I had an amazing circle of people whom I cherish dearly!

A few of these sparkly specks went out of their way this past weekend to surprise the crap out of me with a delightful baby shower! All along I've been bargain shopping on Craig's List, browsing consignment sales and thankfully accepting any hand-me-downs to be had. I hadn't thought much about some tiny, new goodies for this little girl. I am truly at a loss to say how appreciative I am of these chickies for thinking of me.

The thoughtfulness that went into the planning was so apparent as they held it at my all-time favorite bakery here, Amelie's. The atmosphere was gorgeous (think having tea at Anthropologie), the food was unbelievable, but the company was the most amazing. Thank you, Jill, Kelly, Maureen, Heather, Sylvia, Shelley, and Debbie for surprising me with such a special treat. I heart you!

On a side note, why am I such a giant with tiny friends?

Final Details

2011-03-15T21:20:00.003-04:00

We got a crib today! I've been stalking cribs on Craig's List, taking my time, waiting for the perfect bargain to be had. The wait paid off and we ended up with this crib and dresser:

Having checked this off the list, I'm left with the pressing (though exciting) last minute details of: stroller, sling, and diaper bag. However, with the way my pregnancy brain is going lately I just might end up with this in the end:

Smiling

2011-03-08T07:15:00.003-05:00

When the day begins with tattling in the form of "Mooooooom...she's smiling at meeeeeee" and the wearing of kneepads, I'm not really sure where the day will go from here.

Baby Bump

2011-03-03T21:02:00.006-05:00

I am so grateful to my sweet friends Chaeli and Carrie who did a tremendous job capturing the baby bump along with my other muppets in these gorgeous maternity photos.

Revolution

2011-03-01T21:26:00.005-05:00

The small people attempted to stage a revolution today.

All I could do was laugh (at first). After running some morning errands I was informed from the backseat:

"You are the only one who gets to make all the choices. We're tired of it!" - Sweetpea

"Yeah, you and Daddy are the only ones in the whole house that get to make choices. We want to make choices." - Punky

It was voiced so passionately and in sequence it was as if they'd had several meetings about the topic and had decided to finally confront the management. I truly couldn't stop laughing as I was driving. But, my brain eventually kicked into a more therapeutic mode and we talked about the choices that they had been able to make just today alone (e.g., what to wear, eat for breakfast, morning story to read, etc.). This conversation also included the hard fact that sometimes I need to make important choices to keep them healthy and safe...and fed. However, I am sorry girls - running errands is not my favorite 'choice' either.

Less Stuff

2011-02-25T09:34:00.005-05:00

I've been ~~worried~~ trying to be thoughtful about where to put everything as we continue to unpack. One area of note has been trying to consolidate toys and games from two spaces (playroom and bedroom) into one. However, as I heard giggles and elaborate stories emerging from the storage closet this morning I thought about how nice it is that these small people really help keep things in perspective. They don't care as much about 'stuff' as I think they do. Now I don't feel nearly as bad about the many toy-laden trips to Goodwill that we'll be making.

The 3rd (2nd) Child Syndrome

2011-02-23T10:36:00.005-05:00

I've heard that with your second child the same attention to pictures, baby books, gathering mementos, etc. sometimes takes a bit of a back seat to the fact that you are juggling new baby and still tending to other small people. I'm nearly 7 1/2 months pregnant and am sad to say that I'm already finding this to be true. With the girls, I diligently journaled about each doctor visit and new kick I felt and saved and scrapbooked the ultrasound pictures. With this girlie-babe, I've managed to write 2 things so far and who knows where the ultrasound pictures are at this point.

Granted we did just move and are in the midst of unpacking, but still... I am happy to say that this Saturday Carrie & Chaeli will be taking some maternity pictures, so at least that's one thing documented. How do the rest of you manage this balance?

The Name Game

2011-01-06T08:29:00.002-05:00

So with the news of a girl-babe on the way we can start to hone in on girlie names at this point. This, however, does not seem to be an easy task. Keep in mind that with the two previous girlies we went to the hospital with a list of 10 names and took 3 days to name them. This did not make the birth certificate pusher happy, but it felt right to us. Now looking back on that list of names we went with, I don't like any of the unused ones at this point.

The A-team has been sweet in trying to give their 2 cents for suggestions. Here's some that they've noted so far:

Buttercup
Daisy
Rose Petal
Trader Joe's
Ellett (yes, she would be Ellett Ellett)

Twinput + 1

2010-12-24T08:03:00.007-05:00

We announced to the cyber world yesterday that we are expecting an addition to our all-girl squad of giggles and delight (and drama and tantrums) in May 2011! 3 proms. 3 college tuitions. 3 weddings.

With life based around twins for so long it will be interesting? a relief? exciting? to see how just one little babe goes. The anxiety about sleepless nights is steadily creeping in, but has been overpowered by the excitement of the squishy, baby phase. The girls will be going into Kindergarten (what???) a few months after she is born and for this I am thankful. Thankful that they got my undivided time for 5 years and thankful that they'll be on to their own special adventures just as we begin a new one here at home.

When we did find out it was a girl one of my first thoughts was: I'm glad that I can still sign our grandparents' cards: Love, The Grandgirls. Is that ridiculous? Sure. Gregor cheered a bit, smiled, and turned to me in the ultrasound room saying, "Girls always love their dads," since he's knows I'm likely lying their picturing the teenage angst that I will meet in 10-15 years.

Now on to deciding whether she'll become part of the 'A-team' of names or whether we should branch out a bit. Regardless, we can't wait to meet our sweet girl!

"Happy to 'Bee' the Big Sister"

On a side note, the gender prediction kit was fun, but wrong:

Address Unknown

2010-10-27T21:59:00.005-04:00

"Mama, I'm going to write a thank you note to the Tooth Fairy, put it back under my pillow and see what happens" - Punky

Imagination

2010-10-15T10:12:00.002-04:00

I love when this happens!

Sisterly Love

2010-10-13T10:36:00.001-04:00

Punky: Mommy, I want you to be the Queen, I'll be the Princess and Sweetpea can be our waiter.

Punky is 5!

2010-09-30T15:13:00.014-04:00

Dear Punky,

Happy 5th birthday, sweet girl! You're so excited to be growing and have asked each morning for the past few days if you're still 5 when you wake in the morning. You'll even comment on how your feet are getting bigger or that your getting taller. You also continue to make it known that you're not happy about being the 'youngest.' You are a leader in your class and love to be social. Over the summer and lately in your class, you've been seeking out boys to play with, though you are still a diva to the core. We had a fancy princess party for you and your sister and you took such pleasure in the dresses, necklaces, tiaras, chapstick, rings, etc.

You continue to express your love of animals. The outdoor cat across the street loves to see you coming because she gets hours of petting and attention. I'm pretty sure you'd dress her up if you could with a little bonnet. You still like to pretend that you're a cat and will follow your sister around as her pet (which seems to satisfy a need for both of you). You meow so often that your Dad and I have made a rule about no meowing in the house. Let's be honest, one can only take so much meowing!

You also love to be with your sister. When she's not near you at home you're always asking about her and trying to get yourself included in the games she's playing. Sometimes this means you stand inches from her until she clocks you. Regardless, you seem to be thrilled to get the attention. Interestingly, at school you both rarely play with one another and have completely separate friends.

One of my favorite things about you is that you are always singing! Your Dad and I get a kick about how you narrate everything in song, "We're driving and now. I see a sheep. We're crossing Raccoon River..." You still sound like Bob Dylan sometimes in your intonation and it cracks me up! You're also loving the Spanish songs that you're learning at school and will frequently break out into a rendition of "Cabeza, hombros y pies." You've even got the accent down.

Though you went through your period of not wanting kisses, you've finally let us snuggle you again. Whew! I think this break was partially paired with your dramatic flair where everything was so emotional and theatrical. This drama is still so very present. You said to me a few days ago in an exasperated voice, "I just have SO many dreams, Mom. I want to be a scientist, a ballerina, and an astronaut. It's SO much." I chuckle inside, but try to comfort you because things like this are a very big deal to you.

You're finally settling in here in Iowa, though you talk about your friends from Charlotte frequently. You'll make some new friends here soon, Punky. I promise.

I love you so dearly! Happy 5th birthday!

Love,
Mom

Sweetpea is 5!

2010-09-30T14:57:00.013-04:00

Dear Sweetpea,

Happy 5th birthday, sweet girl! You are continue to amaze me with your endless questions about specifics of our world (from negative numbers to how dragon flies are born). You've grown so much this year, but your love of art remains as strong. You are so tactile and I think this is partially why you love to draw and paint so much. Playdough, chalk, etc. seem to satisfy this need for you. You come home from preschool with your backpack stuffed full of art projects that you've completed that day. You'll describe the scenes of family, animals and even abstract art to me with such glee. And you make it known on a regular basis that you're going to be an artist when you grow up!

You still LOVE babies oh so much. When we go to the indoor or outdoor playground if you see a baby - look out. You're such a caretaker and you'll follow the babe around to be sure that she's having fun as you play with her. You also show this nurturing side to your sister on a regular basis still going to the extent of leaving goodies for her instead of taking them for yourself because you know this will make her happy. Though you have these care taking tendencies you also truly relish your alone time and will play and draw by yourself frequently.

You still have such a tiny voice for such a big personality, though you certainly make yourself known in our house. We can usually turn your grump into laughter if we focus on your silliness and say things like, 'Your lip is sticking so far out I think I could sit down and have a tea party on it!'

You're a snuggly treat to be with and you dole out kisses and hugs all around. You also love to dance and if you hear a good song mid-meal you'll ask to be excused so you can let loose. This paired with your terrific sense of humor makes you a funny, funny girl. You love to laugh and love to make others laugh. You and Ava are constantly making up your own jokes that go on and on. You find these hilarious and I find you hilarious!

You've made the transition here to Iowa with your big bunk bed and new Spanish class. Even still, you love to stay at home and play. You make this known nearly everyday. You also continue to ask for a pet and when we discussed the possibility of getting you a fish, you let me know that you want a 'dry pet.' I'm sure you'd do a great job of caring for it, but as I've told you so many times, puppies take A LOT of work. Maybe when you're 10.

I love you so dearly! Happy 5th birthday!

Love,
Mom

Walking Taco

2010-07-12T10:39:00.005-04:00

Des Moines Day 6: Walking Taco

Have you heard of this? I hadn't. We braved the Dallas county fair last weekend which was equipped with the standard toothless carnies, 4-H-ers, bull riding and mutton bustin'. As a side note - I will never let the girls bust muttons. This activity included small children (as young as 2!) being placed WITHOUT a helmet on the back of a sheep with their arms around its neck in the bucket gate. The gate is then released and the sheep essentially runs for its life, smashing kids into gates, stepping on them and scaring the crap out of onlooking parents. Why? I already have an issue being afraid of head injuries. No thank you on this one.

Anyhow, fair food is always a greasy treat, but there was a concoction here that I have yet to see, named 'The Walking Taco.' I was in line for the Ribeye Sandwich with fresh squeezed lemonade, but could resist finding out more about this package people were walking away with. May I present - The Walking Taco:

Made up of an individual sized bag of Doritos, taco meat, cheese, sour cream and onions. Basically the grossest (but potentially tasty, since Doritos are my downfall) nachos you can think of. Walk and eat with a fork. Ewww/Yum.

13 Years!

2010-07-06T00:35:00.019-04:00

Des Moines Day 5: 13 Year Anniversary!

Des Moines, I'm happy to report that you have exceeded my (albeit extremely low) expectations. To celebrate our 13 years of marriage, Gregor and I had a solo (thanks to Mom!) day around town full of many fab events, such as:

Browsing at a 4 story Architectural Salvage Shop - so fun!

Checking out some terrific T-Shirts at a local boutique

Sampling of many culinary delights that included pumpkin pancakes, tasty Lebanese food, sweet treats and a nice dinner at Centro

Partaking in some touristy site seeing

...and having an overall terrific day with sweet Gregor who has been in my life for 21 years!

I heart Gregor

The Urban Legend

2010-07-02T00:08:00.005-04:00

Des Moines Day 4 (well,...): The Urban Legend

So, this Urban Legend I'm referring to is actually our house. It has a bit of a rep around the neighborhood, which I'm trying to figure out whether I should disband or just go with. Every neighbor I've met so far has known something about us ("Oh, I heard you're from San Diego", "You're the one with the twins, right," "Wow, you're so worldly, you've lived in so many places," etc.). I've tried to chalk this up to basically living in the country. In addition to this eerily passed information everyone has a story about our house. Here's just a sampling of what I've heard:

The kids who lived in the house before us used to scavenge the balls from the driving range behind our house and try to sell them to people.
Upon being confronted by police these kids' mom pelted the officer with the above mentioned golf balls (now wouldn't she be arrested for this behavior?).
The family who was here before us stuffed the cabinets with raw shrimp and left cups of milk in various places around the house [Verified].
The previous tenants had a huge blowout party with caterers, musicians, etc. - none of whom they paid.
The tenets used to go into town eat at the 3 restaurants and claim that they'd forgotten their wallets and skip out on the bills (wouldn't someone eventually get the idea?)
The middle school principal, who lives in the neighborhood, had to stop walking her dog by the house because she would be accosted by the mom who accused her of not challenging her kids.
People used to play basketball in the house while it was being built.
The house was featured on HGTV [Verified].

Everyone has something to say about the Yellow House. When I tell people that's where we live there is a widening of the eyes that takes place. But hey, at least it's interesting conversation, right? In fact, in this time of transition, at least there are conversations taking place at all.

Neighbors

2010-05-27T00:51:00.002-04:00

Des Moines Day 3: Neighbors

OK, clearly my move is getting in the way of my blog (shake fist in air). I'm happy to report that I've met (read: forced myself upon) three surrounding neighbors. Here are the stats:

1. I've been cleared to use the play equipment in the yard next to us since the parentals work all day and their school aged children are away. Big score!

2. I've met a part time stay-at-home-momer with a 5 year old little girl! We have already had 2 successful drop off play dates - one there, one here. Woo hoo! This chickie is also a bread-baker, composter, rain-barreller. Whew.

3. A doll from Dallas has been quick to offer insight into the neighborhood and provided recommendations on where to get: haircuts, pedicures, a cute dentist, a good neighborhood babysitter...

And here I was thinking I was moving beyond civilization. Still, it doesn't quite compare to my Charlotte peeps.

Central Vacuum

2010-05-18T22:57:00.003-04:00

Des Moines Day 2: Central Vacuum

I am blown away (I guess sucked away would be more appropriate here) by the central vacuum system that is installed in our house here. I've always liked gadgetry, but there is one aspect of this system that has sent me to the moon. There's this little kick-vent in the kitchen that lets you basically sweep your crap down a hole in the baseboard that's connected to the vacuum. It just gets sucked away into this magic portal! Amazing.

Backyard

2010-05-16T22:39:00.008-04:00

Des Moines Day 1: Backyard

With my farewells to Charlotte all done, I thought I'd try to say some hellos to Des Moines. Moving is exhausting, so we'll see if I'm able to put 30 days consecutive days up...
Here's what I know so far:

I pass many corn/soybean fields, 2 sheep farms, and the Raccoon River to get to my house.
They sell local bottles of milk at the grocery store.
The grocery store is a 12 minute drive away, so I'm going to need some serious meal planning up in here.
An unoccupied house accumulates many, many bugs.
The girls LOVE the backyard

Playing with the "poofy-head dandelions"

Our first Iowa sunset from the backyard

Final Farewell

2010-04-30T10:21:00.006-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 30: Final Farewell

Well, Charlotte. We've had a good run of it. You've provided the backdrop for some terrific memories over these past few years. Most of all you've been the meeting ground for some amazing people. I appreciate you and I will miss you.

Friends: Jill

2010-04-29T08:04:00.006-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 29: Friends: Jill

No homage to Charlotte would be complete without a mention of my Southern BFF, Jill. Even though she's no longer a Charlottean, our bonding bloomed here. I've already paid tribute to our ongoing sis-mance (what is the girl version of bromance?) here - and on Valentine's day no less! I really love this sister-honey-girl. We're such kindred spirits!

Looking *fancy* for a night out!

Blakeney Target

2010-04-28T18:11:00.005-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 28: Blakeney Target

I know, I know, Target is everywhere. In fact, where we're moving there's even a Super Target! However, the Blakeney Target has been a haven for us to go to as:

an outing
a destination for our adventures through the trails
a grocery store
a clothing store
a waiting area for displaced people while others view our house to buy
a waiting area for displaced people while others view our house to rent
a toy store
a spot to see and meet ALL Moms in Charlotte
a coffee shop
a place to redeem earned marbles from chores

...and so on and so on. Really, the best part is the 1/2 mile walk from our front door to yours, you convenient and enticing vixen.

Friends: Kelly

2010-04-27T21:01:00.012-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 27: Friends: Kelly

Why, oh why did I not meet you sooner?! I know that people come in and out of our lives at the perfect time, but I certainly would have loved to have lots more fun, girl time with you! You are such a generous and caring spirit who laughs and cries as easily as I do. I love that about you. Your heart is just bursting with sweetness and sass and you are an infectious presence of goodness to everyone around you. Thank you, thank you, thank you for being there for me. Make plans for an Iowa girls' weekend! Love you!

Sweet and Sassy Girls

North Cackalacky

2010-04-26T20:38:00.001-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 26: North Cackalacky

I love that Charlotte is a main city in a state that is referred to as North Cackalacky.

Access to Local Goodness

2010-04-25T20:58:00.005-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 25: Access to Local Goodness

At the local farmer's markets here (either the big Uptown version or the smaller Matthews version) you can access some terrific vendors. One little Grandpa with his table full of two things let us know we could get some good "peaches and 'maters" from him. I love that. I've talked about my hearkening back to simpler times and being here in Charlotte has made that much easier. A few of my local favorites include:

Baucom's Best: Great family, great product. Their beef and pork are now our staples and their eggs are also terrific!
Absolute Organics: We've been getting their home delivery of organic fruit for years now and I love that you can pick and choose a few days before your box arrives from what they have available. They also have wonderful service!
Charlotte Farmer's Markets: I love going to these together as a family and finding that guy sitting there with his overalls and 2 products: arugula and lettuce. I always buy from him. Those vendors who grow locally are marked with big signs which makes it easy to try to do one small thing for the Earth.

At this point I'm already looking into Co-ops in Iowa to see if we can get involved...maybe buy a portion of a cow or take the girls to volunteer and tend to some veggies.

The Lynx

2010-04-24T20:12:00.014-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 24: The Lynx

The Lynx is our lightrail train that was added since we've moved here and has really become an activity unto itself! The girls love riding the train and thankfully there are many stops with things that are fun for them - the Uptown library, a Bobcats game, Pikes Soda Shoppe, etc. We pretty much have this on our staple of activities to do whenever friends and family have come to town!

A visit with Nana

A visit with Grandma

A trip with Mom and Dad

Our Friend Quinn

A visit from Aunt Nikki & Uncle Nate

Friends: Bunco Babes

2010-04-23T14:33:00.005-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 23: Friends: Bunco Babes

A special thanks to Carrie for introducing me to the fabulous world of Bunco! Who knew how much fun a dice game could be? Ok...let's face it, it's really more of a night of socialization, tasty treats and flowing spirits. So fun! But the best part of all have been the unbelievable women that I have had the pleasure of meeting over these last few years. You chickies have made a monthly night out so much fun to look forward to. Thank you all and keep those dice rolling!

Friends: LLA Ladies

2010-04-22T23:45:00.004-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 22: LLA Ladies

You lovely ladies have been there for support, to commiserate, and to laugh with and I will so miss our bond! Bring your overalls and your wheat sheaths and come to the country for some cow tipping!

Friends: Carrie...and her Photography

2010-04-21T18:43:00.014-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 21: Friends: Carrie (and her photography)

I'm so thankful that we met! You are as silly and goofy as I am and you know I love that! You introduced me to book club and Bunco. You were the queen of the scene at my hot cha-cha party and took me out for a unmatched night of dancing! Aside from being a sweet friend, you are - hands-down - the best photographer I know. You've been able to capture our squirrley girls with such beauty and truth. Plus, you are utterly patient with Gregor and I! Looking back over the many pictures just warms my heart and truly makes me both sad and happy. I will miss you, friend!

Carrie Scruggs Photography
Some of Carrie's beauties!

Southern Hospitality

2010-04-20T20:39:00.003-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 20: Southern Hospitality

The people are what I've loved about Charlotte the most. I've told my family in San Diego and Denver on numerous occasions that I would never want to stay here because of the weather, but the people are what would make it all worth it and potentially make me change my mind.

People here wave at each other. Neighbors hang out in their driveways chatting, bbqing, watching kids play...There's community here.

Each time I'm at the grocery store someone asks if I need help or whether they can 'get me a buggy.' In the process of preparing to move I've been interacting with so many different people (from the girls' school, handymen, property agents, etc.) and across the board the bottom line description of them all is kind and helpful. Little gestures go a long way here in the South. I'll miss that.

Learning Links Academy

2010-04-19T19:48:00.004-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 19: Learning Links Academy

So, now with the big move the hunt is on for preschool since the girls miss the cut off for Kindergarten by 2 weeks - no exceptions. When I first heard about people putting their in-utero kids on wait lists for preschools I thought, 'Ok, this is just a San Diego phenomenon.' Then, when I heard of people camping out in tents to wait in line to get a preschool spot I thought, 'Alright, this is just nutty people of San Diego and Charlotte.' Now, I realize this is a national phenomenon. Preschool is the new college.

Why are there such limited spots when demand is so high? Why do I have to drop a Benjamin to even get on your wait list? Ugggh. Experiencing this once again in our transition makes me realize how very much I've loved our preschool here. The girls have been at Learning Links Academy since the tender age of 2! Initially I thought, 'You've got to be kidding me, three years of preschool?' But, now I'm so pleased with all that they've been exposed to. The curriculum, the teachers, the administrators...they are superbly great.

Even in our transition they are helping me try to find places in our new home. I love them. I just want them, there.

First day of Preschool - 2 years old!

Friends: Shelley

2010-04-18T18:58:00.007-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 18: Shelley

My dear friend, you were the first person who I met here in Charlotte that was so very sweet to me. You understood why I was so frantic and sweaty with two 18 month old people running around your home. You showed me such kindness the first day I was at your house that I literally went home and cried with relief. You've been such a gentle spirit - always thoughtful, always such a treat to be around. I've enjoyed the time that we've spent together immensely. You hold a special place in my heart and I am so thankful to be called your friend.

REI

2010-04-17T19:35:00.004-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 17: REI

REI reminds me of gearing up to go to the Peace Corps. Now, I love it for the random supplies like: the shoes, the bikes, the backpacks, the laptop sleeves and water bottles. It's all these peripheral contraptions that I smile about and will miss being readily available. These goodies are certainly nothing like the equipment we bought before heading here:

Dschang in Cameroon

The Blushing Bakeshop

2010-04-16T13:24:00.005-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 16: The Blushing Bakeshop

We've frequented this new little gem in town more times than I can count at this point. Aside from the darling atmosphere filled with beautiful prints, the cupcake themselves are truly delish! They're not too sweet, they have great varieties and the lovelies who work there are a delight. Plus, they named a cupcake after a friend of ours!

Punky enjoying "The Darren"

Live Music

2010-04-15T11:30:00.005-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 15: Live Music

Amos' Southend is a small venue up in Dilworth that let's you get up close with the music and the artists. We saw Amos Lee play which was amazing to experience!

There is also live music in the Spring and Summertime played to fields of ice-cream wielding kids. The shops across the street at Blakeney (look at the bottom of the home page here for the 2010 schedule) and Stonecrest have offered some great artists and atmosphere. Plus, free certainly helps...

BBQ

2010-04-14T19:08:00.007-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 14: BBQ

Cook-out has always been a tasty, cheap and fast option for yummy BBQ. Plus, they have that terrific crunchy circle ice in their drinks that always makes me happy. However, through my proficient taste-testing of local BBQ digs, I've found my favorite to be 521 BBQ & Grill. Slow cooked pork (as their slogan says, 'Butts Rubbed Nightly'), unparalleled hushpuffies (as the girls call them), and piggy-juices oozing from their caramel coated ribs. So tasty.

Y

2010-04-13T20:11:00.007-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 13: The Morrison YMCA

We've been members of the Y before in both California and Colorado - they were by no means luxurious accommodations. In fact, I'm pretty sure that's where we went because we were poor students. So coming to Charlotte and seeing the amazing offerings of the Morrison YMCA here was a pleasant surprise. Some of the many terrific treats have included:

An unbelievable water park

Sweet, sweet dance classes

Exquisite yoga with the famous Dolly

My House

2010-04-12T18:23:00.003-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 12: My House

Gregor and I have lived a lot of places (San Diego, Denver, Colorado Springs, Cameroon...) but never in a place that has actually been our very own. This week we'll sign a lease in Des Moines, which got me thinking about how I've really treasured our place here - not just the fact that it's convenient and close to everything, but the actual home itself. It fits us and it will be missed.

One of my favorite rooms

See here for more (until the link is no longer hosted)

Friends: Maureen

2010-04-11T12:27:00.007-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 11: Maureen

My sweet, sweet gym buddy. I cherish all of our therapeutic treadmill, elliptical and weight lifting conversations. You have seen me at my best (buff yoga arms, motivated, emotionally healthy) and worst (too much to mention here). You've invited me into your life and into your family and I am so grateful for all of the silly and terrific moments we've shared. I so enjoy our shared love of music, food, books, wine, family... I look forward to our lifelong friendship! Thank you, friend.

Greenways

2010-04-10T13:34:00.005-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 10: Greenways

So, I'm a semi-outdoorsy girl. I grew up in Colorado, I've hiked, biked, kayaked, camped, fished, zip-lined, repelled, and so on. There's no comparison to Colorado when it comes to beautiful mountains and scenery, but Charlotte certainly has some family-friendly trails - or greenways, as they're called here - that have provided some great moments for us.

Having just come off of Holy Week, Punky still thinks about this in her little mind and will spontaneously break out into song at a moments notice:

Punky singing 'Let My Prayer Arise'

The Bulls

2010-04-09T19:08:00.006-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 9: The Bulls

These random and silly statues have been popular with our girls throughout our time here in Charlotte. They're right by Gregor's old work and have signified to the girls that Daddy's day was done and we were going to pick him up. I love that around Christmas time they put wreaths around them. I also love that they've finally added swings to the mix so there is more to do than try to crawl on hot, steamy metal statues in the summer.

Amelie's French Bakery

2010-04-08T16:23:00.002-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 8: Amelie's French Bakery

I've mentioned Amelie's before and it certainly is worthy of mention again. The decor, the delectable pastries, the friendly service...Love.

Nordstrom

2010-04-07T13:05:00.013-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 7: Nordstrom

Though seemingly (or actually) superficial, I have whole heartedly appreciated this store for its customer service, variety ($10 BP earrings to fancy-pants jeans), and general loveliness.

Linea Paolo, Biala, Sofft, etc. I know that I can search for you online, but it's just not the same.

Hanky Panky Retro, Paige, Citizens, having access to you in the store complete with alterations has been great.

Delicious tomato soup with crostini, you will be missed.

Porches with White Rockers

2010-04-06T14:18:00.003-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 6: Porches with White Rockers

While preparing to move from out West, my head was swimming as I envisioned romantic things about the South. I was pleasantly surprised to see some of these were alive and well. I love our neighborhood with the multitude of these beauties that really are put to use.

Blakeney Greens Trails

2010-04-05T16:29:00.018-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 5: Blakeney Greens Trails

At 18 months I would take the girls out in the double jogger stuffed with snacks, blankets and toys and hope that we could make it through a walk on these trails behind our house without a major melt down from either of them.

This grew into them wanting to walk...until about half way through the trail when they would both want to be held. Sweet, nonetheless.

Now, they truly love to explore...

We'll miss seeing all the deer, ducklings, birds, and butterflies (not the snakes so much...).

NOTHV

2010-04-04T03:26:00.021-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 4: Nativity of the Holy Virgin

Christ is Risen! Indeed He is Risen!

I am grateful to have found such kind-hearted people at Nativity of the Holy Virgin. Taking a look back at the pictures from our celebrations over these past 3 years really makes me smile.

Trader Joe's

2010-04-02T21:43:00.014-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 3: Trader Joe's

I was spoiled to have had Trader Joe's both here and in San Diego. I have taken for granted those quick, easy, tasty treats that it provides. So much so, I actually considered (am considering) stock piling some goodies and shipping them out to us. Things like:

Cereal Bars (This blueberry walks into a bar...)
Tea Tree Tingle body wash (If you haven't experienced it, do so immediately)
Trader Joe brand Sham-Wow's (they have replaced so many paper towels in our house)
Vacuum sealed brown rice
Dried Fruit (unsulfered apricots, mangos, freeze-dried strawberries)
Pancake Mix (both pumpkin & multi-grain)
Vanilla Cake Mix
Truffle Brownie Mix
Various Candy goodies (English toffee, caramels, organic lollies, etc.)
Fruit leather (that we seem to never have enough of even though we buy 16 at a time)
Agave (you can get this elsewhere, but not for such a steal)
Trader Joe's Creamy Body Lotion (a staple)

Today we are preparing for our last Pascha celebration here and I'm jam-packing our basket full of these and other more perishable goodies (dubliner cheese and ghouda with walnuts, chianti salami, Malbec and Prosecco, beautiful Spring flowers...). Of course these morsels don't overshadow the true excitement of our celebration tonight, but they certainly add to it.

Greens and Grits

2010-04-02T15:36:00.007-04:00

Charlotte Love Day 2: Greens and Grits
(Not to be confused with Gin & Juice)

I love the fact that you can get greens and grits as a side item to any meal in town. I will miss this about living in the South. Might I suggest trying them at the delish Flying Biscuit!

The Countdown Begins/Spring

2010-04-01T09:10:00.012-04:00

As our time in Charlotte draws to a close, I've really been trying to appreciate all that this city has offered us: some meaningful, some superficial, but important to me, nonetheless. I thought I would take the time over this next month to reflect on just that. In no particular order:

Day 1: Spring

Charlotte and I have had a love-hate relationship with its weather. I hate it about 75% of the time and love it 25%. Thankfully, we are in the season where the beautiful cherry blossoms around town are singing my name and I'm loving it! This, unfortunately, only lasts about 2 weeks and then the heat of summer sets in... But for now, enjoy.

This Chick is Jackin' My Style...

2010-03-11T15:47:00.005-05:00

This is just one of the many things that I refuse to correct the girls on. I know it's probably inappropriate for 4 year-olds to know some of the lyrics from Boom Boom Pow (Black Eyed Peas), but it's just so...sweet. They also think that at the beginning of the song they are singing, "try again" instead of "gotta get get." Other things that I refuse to correct them on:

You Nork - One hand in the air for the big city
Nah-kin - Would you please pass a nah-kin, I've spilled my juice.
Howl About - Mama, howl about we have some ice cream?
Per Feet's Sake - Oh, per feet's sake...that's not right.

Here are the remains from my Black Eyed Peas concert experience. I'm still kicking myself for forgetting my camera since we were SO close. Being showered with the above confetti while they sang "I Gotta Feeling" was pretty terrific! So, for now at least, sing on girls!

Pony Jonestown

2010-02-25T18:31:00.004-05:00

I walked into the girls' room the other day only to discover my little ponies and barbies splayed all over the floor. I said good-morning and asked how everyone was doing. I was promptly directed to the ponies and was told, "they died."

I just stared...at the ponies, the barbies, these two little people looking up at me for a reaction. "Hmmm...how sad" is all I could come up with in that moment.

There have been lots of questions lately about dying, heaven and why Jesus, God and Santa Clause (as if this is the holy trinity) are all invisible but can see you.

I'm stumped over here.

Sweet Nothings

2010-02-16T17:28:00.002-05:00

We had a nice dinner the other night which included making nice comments about each other (apparently a forcible event). Mine and Gregor's were pretty straightforward, e.g., I love you because you are humble and truly hilarious, but the girls' had a bit more sweetness infused:

Sweetpea:
1. I love Punky because she helps me draw pictures.
2. I love Daddy because he plays catch with me.
3. I love Mommy...there's one thing I like, going to the zoo with your Dad and you in California.

Well, at least there's one thing, Sweetpea.

Punky:
1. I love Sweetpea because she has blue eyes and always sleeps in my bedroom with me.
2. I love Daddy because you're not allergic to cats and has pretty brown eyes.
3. I love Mommy because she helps me put together my princess puzzle.

Thanks, sweet munchies.

1-3-5

2010-02-15T19:38:00.004-05:00

I'm contemplating the people in our neighborhood who just (under)sold their town house for $135,000.

That's right, 1-3-5. Deeeeeeep breath.

Once I can get past the state of horror about what that does to our potential selling price, I start to think about the real human beings. They must have been so scared, devastated and sad that what was just 1 year ago worth $100,000 more than that was now slipping through their fingers...that what was once their home was now...not.

Please let me keep this perspective as we go through this selling process.

♥ Sending Love ♥

2010-02-14T14:16:00.029-05:00

On this lovey-dovey day of sometimes forced romance and smootchery, I really am thankful to have so many loving people in my life. Gregor, Sweetpea, Punky, Kintea, Irini, Nneka, Maureen, Jen, Annie, Dids, Sheila... you rank up there among the best, but I wanted to ingratiate myself today to Jill.

Thank you, in particular, for dealing with the following:

Frequent and frantic phone calls:

• to do a sanity check about parenting skills.

• to grumble about husbandry.

• about fashion.

• about selling a house.

• about ~~stupid~~ awesome people.

and most recently...

• Marrying an rockin'-ophthalmologist with mad laser skills.

• Selflessly piling my two 4-year-olds in with your 4 and 1-year-old for an activity-filled extravaganza that involved little-to-no television watching (which you know is my downfall) while I get Lasik from said rockin'-ophthalmologist.

♥ I truly appreciate you! ♥

Meatfare

2010-02-07T20:32:00.006-05:00

So today is our last day to eat meat before Lent begins next week. This observation paired with my recent viewing of Food, Inc. led to a fabulous meal this evening following a family trip to the farmer's market yesterday morning:

Bunless Grilled Cheeseburgers (Baucom's Best ground beef) topped with fresh red leaf lettuce, market broccoli crowns, and oven roasted french fries from farm potatoes.

I should have snapped a picture of the lovely meal, but by the time it was made we were busily scarfing it up.

Dark Dancing

2010-02-05T21:18:00.017-05:00

The girls had a great response to my earlier post that involved little-to-no wall touching. They called it 'Dark Dancing' but did let me turn on the lights for this brief minute to capture their sweet moves.

What to do

2010-02-04T16:23:00.002-05:00

...with two 4 year-olds when you must keep your place perfectly pristine for the potential buyers who (let's hope) will be copiously dropping by?

My general rules and things I've tried:
General Rules:

You can play with the toys, but need to put one away before you take out another (Quite hard for the little people who love to line up all of their dollies and ponies and make book trampolines for them).
Don't touch the walls, or sit on your made beds...or pretty much touch or sit on anything.

Things I've tried:

Yoga, mid-room. This lasted for a few minutes, but then inevitably led to touching of the (newly repainted) walls.
Computer time. Good, but limited use.
TV. Well, you know my take on this.
Drawing/Coloring - only at the table in the chairs furthest from the walls.
Reading. I literally have read every book in their collection (that wasn't packed for staging). I guess another trip to the library is in order.

Suggestions?

Pageantry

2010-01-12T10:12:00.003-05:00

We've begun the auditioning of real estate agents and here's my analysis so far:

1st candidate put on a great dog-and-pony show and even pre-prepped appointments to take me to so we could see the other townhouses on the market in our neighborhood. This was both good and horrific. I understand that people have walked away from homes in light of the horrible mortgage conditions, etc., but must you punch holes in the walls and rip handrails and banisters down?

2nd candidate was in serious need of grooming and bathing and let me know I need to take down all of the "ethnic" things in my house. Ummm...ok. He also gave me the creeps in general and had Punky running in terror just at the site of him, which says a lot since she's a people person.

Apparently the score stands 1st Agent = 1, 2nd Agent = -10, 3rd Agent = TBD Wednesday.

It all feels a bit like pageantry to me!

All American Family

2009-12-29T15:57:00.022-05:00

I noticed as the girls were writing out thank you notes for all of their Christmas goodies, that they have a massive amount of Grandparentals. I suppose in this way we're the typical all American Family.

I considered having them write out one note to all, but it would end up something like this:

Dear Grandma, Papa, Nana, Nana, Grandpa, Grandpa, Grandma Gail, Grandma Patty & G'momma,

Thank you for loving us so much!

Love,
Sweetpea & Punky

The funny thing is, I'm the one who has to keep track of it. They're not confused one bit.

For 4 Year-Olds, Sprinkles are Key

2009-12-22T18:01:00.004-05:00

How many of these do you think have NOT been licked?

My Wishlist

2009-12-18T17:14:00.003-05:00

So, I know it is superficial, but I really like material things. I do try and try not to and look toward the greater good, but, I do. Anyhow, this makes my wishlist of things a bit long and I've noticed that in the rotation of holidays and gifts, 2 things remain constant on my list (well, 3 if you are counting world peace, etc.). This is because these things do not yet exist. Anyone out there who can invent and ship-to-me the following?

1. A hip cell phone holder for the sassy mom who does not always have her purse on her, but needs her cell phone close. I end up stuffing it in my bra, which is both uncomfortable and trashy. 2. A silent blow dryer. When I can blow dry my hair it means that the girls are otherwise occupied. Because of this I would like to multitask and do things like listen to All Things Considered on NPR or chat with a friend while I get ready.

I'm in Need of Some Christmas Cheer

2009-12-12T08:35:00.004-05:00

Gregor has been traveling a lot lately (understandably with a new job). But I find that even when he is here I'm grumpy about thinking when he's going out of town again and (frankly) angry that meetings are scheduled on December 23 with the blizzarding conditions in Iowa. Though I love these two munchkins that rule this house I certainly don't look forward to the 24 hour gig with no let down. You know, even at night where you just don't let yourself relax knowing that you're on call. I bow down to all you single parents and military families. I just don't know how you do it.

Anyhow, Gregor has been serving meals at the Charlotte Men's Mission for over two years now and it's something that he really enjoys and looks forward to once a month. Me, Mrs. Scrooge, on the other hand can only humpf and haw about how that's one more day that I am, yet again, on call by myself. I literally thought to myself today - well, that's 25% of the weekend without his help already. Seriously. What is my problem? He's helping those in need. But, I'm in need to right? No, not like they are. I'm all screwed up over here and in need of some serious perspective and perhaps a bit of Christmas cheer.

Santa Baby

2009-11-29T19:44:00.006-05:00

It's not uncommon to hear the phrase, "I don't want the rock!" out of the mouth of a guilty 4 year-old in our home. Gregor recently tried to explain the idea of coal in the stocking and the naughty list in an attempt to realize the full benefit that Santa has to offer to us parents.

I had the girls dictate their Christmas wish lists once again this year. Then I had them draw pictures of these things they so desired. I guess I really should have done it the other way around since the pictures really have no relationship to the wish list they spoke about only moments earlier...

Sweetpea:

Dear Santa,

I want a new kitty cat and I want a new Barbie and a new badge. Then, I want a hat. Then I really, really want a new shirt. Then, I'll live happily ever after. Then, the end.

Her picture, on the other hand, depicts (according to her description): a brown guitar, a brown dolly, a brown ball, brown pajamas and a brown Barbie.

Punky:

Dear Santa,

I really love you. Why do you have a naughty list? Because when people are naughty, they go on the naughty list. Then a shark came... I would like a flower magnifying glass and Ainsley would like a new kitty for Christmas. And then we'll send presents to you, Santa! Then, I want a toy seal that can swim in the bathtub. Then, I want to have the famous Santa hat. The end.

Her picture: a turtle with turtle eggs, jelly beans, a Barbie, and the strings fixed on my guitar.

Here's to hoping you don't get the rock this year, girls.

Who needs professional waxing?

2009-11-19T18:58:00.002-05:00

When I was in young(er) we had a Japanese exchange student..and a Puerto Rican exchange student and several exchange students from Mexico...but I digress. Our Japanese exchange student, Machiko, used to shave her arms which was immensely fascinating to the primping, preening junior high girl that I was. I used to watch her as she took her $1.99 pack of bic razors and methodically run one over her forearms ever other day. She said all of her friends and family shaved their arms and legs and even face to keep nice and smooth. Talk about maintenance! Honestly, I don't need to add two more areas to the shaving/waxing/plucking repertoire that I already have.

Anyhow, this came into my realm of consciousness this evening as I was attempting to grill chicken. Our ignition switch of the grill has been broken for quite sometime, which just means we have to manually light the grill after we turn on the gas...I'm sure you can see where this is going. I got a bit distracted while turning on the gas, juggling the plate of seasoned chicken, putting the tongs down, finding a place to put the grill lid, etc. By the time I actually lit the grill a huge plume of fire rose up and briefly engulfed my right arm. No pain or burns, thankfully, but all of my arm hair was singed off. Did you know that burnt arm hair smells analogous to a hair perm? I can't stop sniffing it. Plus, it's nice and smooth, just like Machiko's.

Dance and Delish

2009-11-18T17:16:00.010-05:00

Nothing is quite as presh as a room full of little people dancing their hearts out!

Also, I'm auditioning desserts for our Thanksgiving feast that we'll be sharing with our friends. What's your weigh in?

Pumpkin Spice Cake with Pumpkin Cream Cheese Frosting:

Pumpkin and Praline Cream Cheese Pie:

Projection

2009-11-13T11:48:00.002-05:00

OK, here's the thing: I have a love/hate relationship with television.

I want to scratch my eyes out when the first thing out of the girls' mouths in the morning is - "Good morning, Mommy. Can I watch a show?" - said in darling, groggy morning voices. This is now shortly followed by - "Can I have a piece of candy?"

Straighten index finger. Poke in own eye. Jab repeatedly.

These people LOVE TV. I feel like I am pretty responsible about the kinds of shows I choose for them (the PBS, benign Disney variety), but I can never seem to satiate their need/love for watching. I've tried:

Scheduling it into our day so they know when to expect it.
A marble system of having them earn screen time by doing *good* things.
Overstimulating them with too much TV
Depriving them all day

Each of these instances ends with tears once the magic box is turned off. Plus, the simple fact is that I do use the TV for distraction when I need to make a call, grade a paper, etc. mid-day. How do I incorporate this use into the already corrupt relationship?

Maybe I'm giving too much power to this glowing box. Gregor grew up with no stigma attached to TV and has no problem with it (that is to say, he loves it and doesn't think it's a problem if one chooses to watch all day). I had a slightly more stringent setting of the 1 show per day variety, no cable, no TV in room...And, I keep returning to the studies correlating brain development with TV watching.

Here's the other thing: the instant the girls go to bed, I come down and turn on the TV myself: to relax, to have as background noise, or to just stare at with goofy grin on my face. I'm such a hypocrite. Or, maybe I'm projecting my love of this projection device onto my girls? What to do?

The Flooze

2009-11-03T11:11:00.004-05:00

The frenzy surrounding the swine flu paired with the two perky-earred four year olds in my house has not been a good combo. After a trip to the pediatrician where we left sans flu shot (since they are only doing 3 and under) Punky has been constantly questioning why we can't get the flu medicine.

Jump forward a few days when we go for a family trip to the Maize Maze. As part of the experience there's a short orientation about how to get through all that corn. Our tour guide is about 65 and clearly in need of meds. Her speech is full of word salad with pieces of one sentence mixing and matching with parts of another. It was nutty. But to top it, off she actually says - without sarcasm - "Now ya'll leave that nasty corn ya'll see out there on the ground or you're gonna get the pig flooze." Gregor and I just stared at her. You've got to be kidding.

Now Punky says, "How do we get the pig flooze? Do we need the pig flooze medicine?" Great.

We Are Family!

2009-10-29T14:00:00.013-04:00

Gregor and I were so happy to be able to travel out to CA to share in Nate and Nicole's wedding celebration this past weekend! While we were there spending some time with little sis, I ran across this picture of Nicole that was hanging up in her house. I was truly amazed to see the resemblance between Nicole and the girls (particularly Sweetpea!). Look at that down turned mouth, head shape, and cheeks. When Sweetpea has her hair down she looks EXACTLY the same!

Ringling Brothers & Sisters

2009-10-15T18:27:00.006-04:00

I went to a new class at the gym today - Quick Fit - a great combo of strength and cardio training around a circuit of stations. The girls got to see the set up before heading off to play at "Y School". After stumbling with jump roping, frog leaps, plank position on the steps, etc., I went to go pick up the girls. Sweetpea greets me with, "Mommy, how was your circus training?" She was so right on.

Happy Birthday Punky!

2009-10-07T18:18:00.009-04:00

Dear Punky,

You are 4 and are full of sweetness and sass. You are still my Diva who loves getting her nails painted, a touch of chapstick and dresses, dresses, dresses. You've even started to ask if you can wear accessories to preschool. You touch people's hearts with your sweet compliments (e.g, "I like your beautiful dress"). And you, yourself, are so cute with your pretty brown eyes and sweet gaps in your teeth. With your constant singing and dancing you are a one-woman show. You'll sing to me about anything at all - "I'm putting on my shoes and they're on the right foot..."

I love that you're a mama's girl! The passion that you have for life is truly infectious. You are such a social butterfly and can be found introducing yourself to any little kid in your path ("I'm Ava, what's your name?). I hope this beautiful, outgoing spirit persists!

You both love and love to tattle on your sister. I can find you two setting out tea parties, equipped with apron and pot holder (you love those accessories!), playing mountain climber with the couch pillows or clamoring to figure out how to get your mitts on some chocolate chips ("Mommy, let's bake some cookies...brownies...chocolate chip pancakes...").

So far 4 is my very favorite age for you because you don't resist a snuggle, but you think you're so, so big. You are such a radiant light and I love you!

Love,
Mommy

Happy Birthday Sweetpea!

2009-10-07T17:59:00.012-04:00

Dear Sweetpea,

You are 4 and full of sweetness and sass! You are so inquisitive, always asking about and commenting on your world (e.g., "What happens if someone doesn't have lungs", "Is India very far away?" "I think that honey-baby is a little bit fussy"). You are so cute with your blue, blue eyes and your hair in piggy-buns and ribbons. Everyone always comments on your sweet, tiny voice.

You LOVE babies. I often think that we should have another baby because you would be so full of joy. Something else that gives you joy is...burping. You have huge, man burps and have me cracking up every time you let loose. I know this only reinforces this behavior, but it's pretty hard to resist a chuckle when you tell me you can burp the alphabet, then actually do burp 'A' and 'B'.

You both love and love to torment your sister. She's your best friend and greatest nemesis. I can find you two playing so sweetly in elaborate make-believe plots that involve dollies, babies, rockets, doctors... Your heart truly belongs to your daddy, however. You seek him out and choose his company above all others'!

So far 4 is my very favorite age for you because you don't resist a snuggle, but you think you're so, so big. What a treat to have your tiny self, bursting with joy, humor and love in our lives. I love you!

Love,
Mommy

Paparazzi

2009-09-22T11:20:00.004-04:00

I was woken up by the paparazzi yesterday.

Their flash bulbs (from one of their birthday presents, thanks Grandma!) blinded me into a foggy reality as I stumbled downstairs trying to escape them. They were relentless and trailed me there too.

Thanks for making a girl feel like a superstar on her birthday!

An Entirely Different Hand Gesture

2009-09-10T08:39:00.004-04:00

I started teaching the girls sign language when they were little. Seeing those tiny, chubby hands do 'more' or 'bird' could really just melt your heart. They've also been doing the 'I Love You' sign for years and love to flash it in the greatest places - like when I'm pulling up in car line for preschool. So sweet. This morning however, as Sweetpea is flashing the 'I Love You' sign to her dollies and her sister, Punky says, How to you do 'I don't love you?'

Well...that's an entirely different hand gesture.

Knees and Butts

2009-09-04T10:50:00.008-04:00

It's interesting to look at the world from a kid's perspective - all full of knees and butts. Losing a toy because you refuse to stop walloping your sister with it feels like the end of the world, and getting a balloon at your dentist appointment is the best moment ever. For our girls, this all or nothing attitude also carries over to Gregor and me. This was ever so apparent when looking at their most recent works of art from preschool.

Exhibit 1: Punky's Perspective

Translation:
Mom = Superstar
Dad = A bit of a slouch, apparently diabetic

Exhibit 2: Sweetpea's Perspective

Translation:
Mom = a bit man-ish and really plain
Dad = Lifeguard and superhero
Papa = a hot, black man
Grandma & Auntie She = BFF

When it comes down to it, these so clearly reflect how they feel about their world. Well...except for Papa being a hot, black man.

Farewell Summer (a.k.a. Props)

2009-08-14T08:29:00.007-04:00

Summer - you've been good to us this year. You've been much more temperate than the previous two, which had hundred degree weather on many days that left these girls red faced and sweaty and me just plain annoyed. This year, however, you have been much nicer. I'm still not a fan of your stick-to-the seat of the car days of rushing between air-conditioned house, car and gym. But I have to give it up to you, Summer. Thanks for making it more bearable, enjoyable, and all around less disgusting.

Counting Freckles

2009-08-06T14:06:00.007-04:00

Feeling sun-bleached and freckled from summertime sure makes me feel like a kid!

It also makes me smile to see that my girls are carrying on the tradition of the enormous 'beach hole'!

Order Up

2009-07-26T17:49:00.005-04:00

After a whirlwind vacation, a.k.a. The Ellett Summer Tour 2009, we're now settling back home for a bit. It's during these quiet times at home that the girls are starting to verbalize all the fun that we've had over the past month away. As I watched the girls play this afternoon, the scene included Sweetpea pushing around a pirate ship to pick up all of her barbies who now have princess names [thanks Disneyland] and Punky having her dolly order a "small big extra egg latte" [thanks Starbucks]. It was a great time! Here's a scene from Disneyland: a little dancin' and a giant lollipop.

Sweet Serenade

2009-06-20T20:31:00.006-04:00

Adding a bit to the diary of Dadness - Gregor and I sing to the girls before bed. After tirelessly covering all the hits when they were babies (Twinkle Twinkle, Rock-a-bye-baby, etc.) Gregor started to incorporate some updated classics into the set. Now, he'll rock the girls and they'll sing to him. It's a sweet moment! We tried to capture their performances here, but really, it's 8 at night...and they just ate ice cream...

Sweetpea sings Your Song (Elton John):

Punky sings Goodnight My Angel (Billy Joel):

Happy Father's Day!

Superdad

2009-06-18T19:16:00.004-04:00

Father's Day is fast approaching and in light of this I wanted to capture some of Gregor's awesome Dad-ness. An example:

The invention of "Pass-it". This 'game' typically occurs when I have somewhere to go at night, be it book-club or bunco (what am I 80?). Pass-it entails something like this:

1. Cook box of Annie's macaroni and cheese and place it in a mixing bowl.

2. Place frozen peas in a mixing bowl and microwave.

3. Sit in a circle on the ground with mixing bowls and spoons.

4. Take a bite of whatever is in the bowl sitting in front of you.

5. Pass-it

Genius, I'd say.

One is Silver and the Other's Gold?

2009-06-12T16:37:00.000-04:00

Sometimes make new friends and keep the old is complete crap. You just want your friends to stay your friends and to be where you are.

You know those feelings, right? I remember the days of being 9 and devastated as my neighborhood friend and her family drove away in their U-haul. Or even 17, leaving for college, bleary eyed, embracing friends, singing the praises of how we’ll always be together. Don’t get me wrong, on occasion it really does happen. You do chat on the phone, make trips to see each other, Skype. But, let’s get serious – it’s work. Your schedule doesn’t factor into their schedule, or it’s 6am their time when it’s perfect for you to chat, or you feel like you need to (gasp) go and make new friends to fill the void. Whatever the case, it’s just. not. the same.

So, what to do? Feel sorry for yourself? (Check). Push yourself to keep meeting new people (Reluctant Check). Keep telling yourself how terrific it is that you’ve even met these people in the first place (Adamant Check).

I miss/will miss you, friends. Rant end.